The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

By J. Gottman, N. Silver. 2000

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Making it last: Combating hedonic adaptation in romantic relationships (2013, unknown): “Better romantic relationship stability was found to be associated with experiencing five positive interactions for every one negative interaction (Gottman & Silver, 1999).”
Intimate Partnership: Foundation to the Successful Balance of Family and Work (2003, background): “For instance, Gottman and Silver (1999) indicated that shared power is one of the seven principles essential for a successful marriage.”
The highest form of intelligence: Sarcasm increases creativity for both expressers and recipients (2015, background): “Because sarcastic remarks often express the poisonous sting of contempt (Gottman & Silver, 1999), they can undermine relationships and harm communication in organizations.”
Marital Equality and Satisfaction in Stay-At-Home Mother and Stay-At-Home Father Families (2000, background): “One of the strongest predictors of marital satisfaction is equality within a couple’s relationship (Gottman, 1999), and four primary components of marital equality that address issues of gender and power in intimate relationships are (1) division of household labor and child care, (2) balance of pow”
Hedonic Adaptation to Positive and Negative Experiences (2010, background): “…and talk, communicating (i.e., truly listening and conveying admiration, appreciation, and aff ection), managing confl ict, being supportive and loyal, and sharing an inner life, such as dreams, rituals, and responsibilities (Gottman & Silver, 1999 ; McGinnis, 1979 ; cf. Lyubomirsky, 2008 ).”
An affirmed self and a better apology: The effect of self-affirmation on transgressors' responses to victims. (2014, background): “Indeed, defensiveness—refusing to take responsibility for one's actions and instead pointing the finger of blame outward—is considered one of the most destructive behavior patterns in relationships (Gottman & Krokoff, 1989; Gottman & Silver, 1999).”
Behavior expectations in cross-sex friendships, same-sex friendships, and romantic relationships (2009, unknown): “…has found that husbands are more likely than their wives are to withdraw from interactions when the relationship is experiencing conﬂict (Christensen & Heavey, 1993), and husbands experience more physiological stress than their wives do when faced with an angry partner (Gottman & Silver, 1999).”
Marital Estrangement, Positive Affect, and Locus of Control Among Spouses of Workaholics and Spouses of Nonworkaholics: A National Study (2001, background): “…emotional estrangement does not necessarily lead to marital dissolution, it does lead to increasing thoughts of separation or divorce (Kayser, 1993); furthermore, emotional withdrawal from the marital relationship has been cited as one of four major indicators of divorce (Gottman & Silver, 1999).”
Responsive behaviors in good times and in bad (2008, background): “For example, Gottman and Silver (1999) often stressed the importance of ‘‘active listening’’ (p.”